Kinky Vs. Fantasy Vs. Preference

What's your Kink?

If I have to be nude to write my blogs or erotica pieces would you consider that kinky, a fantasy or a a preference?  I believe there is no wrong answer to that question.  At one point or another all three could be or could have been true.  In the past I may not even believed I'd be doing this and doing it regularly and having you all read my naked journal of thoughts.  So in the past this exploration into all things naked was just a fantasy.  It's now a reality.  To those that are a tad bit more vanilla in nature you may consider all that I type or the fact that all that I type when nude is just darn down right kinky.  The bottom line is that it's just a preference.

Let's first begin to break this down in parts to get a better understanding of the three. I'll start with the fantasy element.  When you fantasize it is usually between you and yourself.  The fantasy is an idea, a wish.  It starts in the mind and stays in the mind.  It is a time when I say that you mind fuck yourself.  In a fantasy you can be whomever you want and do whatever you want.  It can be as mild as mowing the lawn naked, mowing the lawn naked with a fully stiff erection or as strong as fucking every girl in your work place.

The fantasy is only held back by as much as you allow it to be held back.  Many fantasies live and die with yourself.  It's only with an open partner or your own willingness  for you to vocalize them or even act upon them.  If you can act upon them then it becomes a success in your sex life bucket list or kink bucket list.  The thing about fantasies is that the event usually only happens once or just once in the original form of the fantasy.  After the initial fantasy has been played out it's a done turkey but if the same type of event plays out over and over then it shall now develop into a kink.  

Being kinky is a little bit of fantasy mixed in with some preference.  A kink has to start out in the mind.  They always say an action was once just a thought in the brain.  It may be a micro thought or a continual, over the years thought.  It could even be a subconscious thought.  When you begin experiencing your kinky behaviors it's because you have allowed yourself the freedom to release your thoughts and see how they play out in real life.  

Congratulations for having the balls or the guts to let your freak flag fly and try what has been in your mind.  Kinks come in a variety of sizes, shapes and ideas.  Kinks are another thing that trips your trigger as I have written about in the past.  Kinks are the lil flavors that we build up for some reason or another and hope to experience over and over. Now "I have a friend" that absolutely loves to be spanked with household items.  To many people it may seem disgusting or unsanitary but to the individual , it is what gets them off or excites them.

The one thing about kinks is that it also can be within your own world or shared.  The kinky behavior is what you make of it.  Just like with fantasies it's about the subject material and they execution of the fantasy or the kink.  If a "friend" fantasizes about wearing her friends clothing and masturbates in them then that is her thought to get her off.  Now if she continually wants to find her friends clothes and use them as a way to get off on a regular basis that that female has a kink.  If she does this act alone and it stays there then that part of the kink is complete.  Now if she has to let the person know that she is wearing the clothing or informs of the act then it's an added twist to the kink which deepens the kinky behavior.  It has now been shared and with that, it grows.

We like what we like.  We want what we want.  We can't deny ourselves the taste that we acquire.  Fantasies are our unlimited wish list.  Our kinks are the played out version that some may not appreciate.  It's our own individual action story.  Our preferences are our ways of making our own life ours.  Our unique play list on Itunes.  

Our preferences could be as simple as only wanting to have sex in the missionary position.  It may just be that you have to keep your socks on so you don't feel completely naked in bed.  Life is like Burger King or it should be.  You can have it your way.  With preferences comes the normal for you.  Without the right setting or action a preference may deny you of the ability to be pleased  if the exact setting is not right.  

If a guy has only masturbated or masturbates too much then the sensation of sex with another live person may not be what is needed for him to orgasm.  His preference may now have switched off his ability to experience an orgasm any other way.  So here is the draw back of all three.  as the saying goes, "Too much of a good thing can be bad for you".  Allow yourself to fantasize about many aspects of your life whether it be sexual or not.  If you want to be kinky then let it be a special treat to change up the routine.  If it is a preference , don't forget to expand your scope.  You will be surprised to the other tastes and flavors of ice cream there are if you just try a little.  

Now go out there and enjoy what your mind has prepared for you, you sick lil twisted monkey and BTW I prefer to go commando.  A kinky behavior (one of many) is to do housework in the nude while maintaining an erection.  A fantasy is to strip at an all female party.  Ok, that was cathartic.

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A Naked Halloween and it's issues

What to Wear, What to Wear

I know it may come to a great shock to you all but even as a nudist Halloween is a fantastic time of year. There is always that joke about what do nudists wear for Halloween. Just because we like to be nude as much as possible we still like to dress up, kind of.

Ever since I could remember as a kid I loved trying to figure out what I'd be for Halloween.  It's the age ole question this time of year.  What are you going to be for Halloween?  Have you got your costume? Oh the pressure of it all.  Decisions, decisions.  I was never good at making decisions. I'll spend an hour at a restaurant just deciding on a side item.  If you pick the wrong costume then you have the whole off season regretting that outfit.  I can't go through it all.

Also at this time of year you have to see how many Halloween parties that you may be invited to or decide to go to.  If you have a bunch of free time do you go to them all?  Do you wear the same outfit to each of the parties?  Well this year I have just one party that I will be going to.  It must be an off year.  Maybe it's the economy.  Maybe it's the rush to Christmas that we just haven't had time to settle into the fact that it is Fall and Halloween is upon us.

This year I'll be spending my Halloween party time with my naked friends.  Yep, I'm one of those naked people you'll ask, "what do you wear to a naked Halloween party?" Oh, it should be easy you say.  Everyone just runs around naked and eating candy.  It's not that easy.  The problems are even greater now that you think we'll all be in the same outfit.  If you go to a naked party then you have less items to make you stand out or be recognized from the next person.  When you are naked with a group we tend to all blend together.  That's one of the points we try to make to outsiders that want an idea of what goes on in these type of environments.

When around other naked people you quickly see that there is nothing shocking any more since we are all on the same level.  No one is really dressed up.  No one has the in style fashions or newest shoes.  When around clothed people you may say to yourself , "wow, look how tight her jeans are" or "Does that shirt really go with that outfit?"  Maybe you don't even acknowledge what people are wearing.  BINGO!  You don't always go around judging other for what they wear unless you are in Wal-Mart and you see another web site submission.  Well the same goes true for being at a nude party.  You don't go around judging what others don't have on or what body shape that person is showing off.  You are now just at a party with people you know and some that you may have just met.

Maybe it is just me but I still stress over being at a naked Halloween party.  Are you saying quietly to yourself that I don't practice what I preach?  It's not the nude thing that I will stress over, it's the fact that it's Halloween and I need to pick a costume.  I told you that it's been a stressor since a young kid.  Being nude just adds another dimension.  If I'm already going to have little or nothing on then how do I make a costume that is Halloweenie enough and also staying true to the nude self in me?  This takes years of building costumes for Mardi Gras parades, World Naked Bike Rides and other stage events that allowed for skin viewage.  There is always body paint that can be worn but what if you end up sitting on a couch or rubbing up against people by walking though a kitchen?  What if there is a pool or hot tub?  That won't work.

I believe I have a fun outfit this year.  It'll all be about how I pull it out and if I can keep it on all night without bending to the urge to just be naked and skip it.  In addition, when you go to a Halloween party you tend to come to the front door all dressed and ready for your grand enterance.  Um, I don't think I can knock on this person's door dressed the way I would for this party.  Now I can't strip then go get dressed because it would throw off the mystery.  Since at nude parties you don't always have private areas to undress, I'd need a little area off tot he side so no one gets a peek until the full outfit is ready.

Wow, ya I may need therapy for over analyzing this one but hey, "It's a party!" I need to have my game face on or at least face paint.  I hope no one Snickers but there will be Good and Plenty naked people.  You will definitely be able to tell who is a HERSHEY.  You'll know who is an Almond's Joy because they have nuts and you'll see those that don't.  There better not be any sword fighting between any Three Musketeers.  One thing I do enjoy is seeing all the beautiful and different size MOUNDS in the room.  It doesn't matter if you are a little bit CHUNKY.  It's all about body acceptance if at Halloween, Christmas or whatever holiday you wish to be naked at.