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I've never had one of those name plates on the edge of my desk., I've never had my name or title on the door to my office. I've never felt like or wanted to be labeled in any way during my life. No matter what you do in life people will want to put you in a nice corner so as to better understand who you are. Some people love to be addressed by their title or only recognize themselves by what they do or they letters after their name. Even in the nude world I have seen that people will want to identify themselves by their tastes or kinks or sexual preferences.
Since attending clothing optional events I have come to find sub groups. These sub groups can easily be identified and some lay just underneath the surface. In life we have commonalities with everyone and the subgroups determine our friends and at times our enemies. At a clothing optional event the obvious commonality is that we are mostly all nude. The subgroups bring the flavor to the individual.
I'll begin with the term of being a nudist vs. a naturist. When people learn that I don't wear clothes that often they immediately then ask, "Oh, are you a nudist?" For much of my life I would agree with them so that their mind could rest at ease and they knew how to deal with that information. I honestly don't like being called a nudist because for me it brings up thoughts of the AANR (American Association of Nude Recreation). AANR is more of a very conservative, rules and regulations, contracts and a membership card. How can I relax in the nude if I have all these governing guidelines to follow?
Naturists on the other hand have a lot in common with a nudists. Yes, both of them enjoy being nude. Naturists as well enjoy being nude in a social setting. Naturists are the down to Earth and communing with nature. Naturists also stand for nudity with an asexual slant. There are no sexual tendencies with being naked. We all live in harmony under one naked roof.
Let's continue on with nudity but as what perspective that we have in our own mind. Again, when people may hear that you enjoy being nude they sometimes go straight for the statement of, "Oh, you must be an exhibitionist." Just because I like to be naked doesn't mean I'm hoping everyone is staring at my junk. When I'm naked at home alone am I being an exhibitionist for the cat? That sick little monkey watches me way too long when I get out of the shower. Why won't he just leave the room when I'm having sex? Damn cat must be a voyeur.
"Well if you don't enjoy being seen naked then you must be going to these parties to look at other people naked." If you aren't as blind as Stevie Wonder than you just might catch a glimpse of an uncovered breast or ass. AANR and most nude groups frown upon the practice of staring at an individual when naked. You must respect their right to be nude as much as we are respecting your right to be among the nude. Actually, this rule is not just for when you are nude in a social setting but for everyday life. This skill comes under socialization skills. While attending these events it does come out in private conversations that people do look, People are curious. People are not asexual no matter what group you are with.
Then there are the relationship status' that a times are blurred and people use to try to explain who that other person is standing naked with them in the kitchen. Those that called themselves Poly or are polyamorous are those that are dating more than one individual or at least have some part of an intimate relationship. Poly peeps are those that may just want to sample many cookies at the same time or just don't have the want to be with just one person because of what another person may bring to them.
Swingers are a whole other ball of wax. They can be Poly but most the time Swingers are into the relationship for the sexual factor whereas Poly want that connection. It's just my opinion but many swinger couples blow up due to the fact that one of the members goes Poly and is in a deep love or relationship for a former fuck buddy.
I'll briefly touch upon the sup group of BDSM. All of the former sub groups can be seen at a nude event and you will never know. When a BDSM person is in the room you also will not be able to tell since they are not walking around with nipple clamps or in chaps. These couples save their subgroup to the bedroom or dungeon . There are many times BDSM do not like to be fully nude or even in public. Much of what they do are primarily for their joy alone.
I could go on into other subgroups that consist of LGBT but that is mostly a sexual preference. What I have discussed is what a person may bring to their nude life. It's not an end all explination of the people there but it may show you that you too can be comfortable with who you are and what you bring to a nude gathering.
I love to be naked but I don't want to be called a nudist. I enjoy being in nature but I'm not a naturist. I honestly love to be seen nude because it's a big confidence builder but I'm not strictly an exhibitionist. I don't stare an a great firm ass but yes I'll look and admire but not to the point where I want that person to be uncomfortable. I'm not a complete voyeur but a person that enjoys the human form. I'll admit that I have nude female friends that I feel close to but I'm not poly. I count them as close friends that I at times see nude. I have a relationship with another couple but we are not swingers. Just because I love to be spanked and to spank other people doesn't mean I'm part of the BDSM.
There is no reason why we have to fit into a nice little box for others sake or even for your own sake. I think it's better to blend in with all and therefore enjoy the company of a variety.
The only title I want is to be the Most Naked person in America!
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