Sunday, August 17, 2014

The ins and out of the Erect Penis otherwise known as a Boner



Quite recently a female friend had some interest in the erection or “Boner” as she called it.  Since she brought ‘Up” the topic in more ways than one I tasked her to write out her questions and I would as directly answer any questions that she had.  No matter the age of a person there are always questions about the opposite sex unless you may the famous Masters and Johnson from Washington University.  Even they had very little knowledge of the erection until they began their studies. 



I have been wanting to bring light to the plight of the erection for quite some time.  I want to de-villianize the erection.  I want to show that the boner as she called it is not to be feared and looked upon in disgust by some that misunderstand it. There is a major push to desexualize the female nipple as Scout Willis has recently campaigned in the anti-Instagram photo shoot.  Females have longed for equal rights for being topless.  A male may take his short off in the park or walking the dog down the sidewalk nut if a female shows her bare breasts it is not indecent.  Thank God some states have seen the light and have allowed the female nipple to be exposed.  At the moment burlesque dancers still maintain the pasty to cover that damn villain of a nipple.

The female that put me on the path of this blog spoke of one of her burlesque routine as a boner inducer.  She stated that she knew it was a hot routine and hoped it caused guys to get hard.  In the same way, strippers or exotic dancers count on erections to cause a guy to open their wallets to fund their night.  It is said that many men are guided by their little heads.  The boner is looked upon when needed for a method of motivation but not always welcomed and needing to be covered or even a cause of embarrassment for guys when they aren’t wanting one to be visable. 

 


I have modeled in the nude on many occasion and many of those times I’ve modeled alongside of nude females.  On more than one modeling assignment a nude female has come up to take a break from a pose and disclosed how wet she had gotten while in the pose.  The female is able to experience that state of arousal easily because of the lack of outward sign.  Even if a nipple became erect it would be tough to tell or even noticed.  While modeling I too have gotten excited but fought “hard” to stay flaccid.  My key to such calmness is by singing “I’m Henry the VIIIth I am” over and over.  It has always worked.
I am very appreciative of “Kim” for questioning me about my experiences and thoughts on erections or boners.  I use “Kim” because she does not want to have her real name used for fear that she wants more information and thinks about the male anatomy so much.  Here is my best attempt to answer all of her questions all the while maintaining a strong erection.

Kim: Do they hurt?

Maybe it’s because I like a little pain with them I’d say no.  Honestly, they do not hurt.  Even when faced with the hardest erections it may feel as though it will rip right through the skin the extreme pressure juts build more excitement.  When having an intense erection you are wanting that full pressure so it is a welcomed feeling.

Kim:  Can you control getting a boner? Can most men? Is it normal to control them?

Once out of your early twenties most guys should be able to control them to a great extent.  When younger even a strong gust of wind or smell of a hamburger could get a guy hard.  As I have mentioned before with a little bit of mind control most erections can be held back.  Alcohol is one item that prevents some lack of control.  When a guy is totally relaxed as in laying on the couch or sound asleep the erection can pop up with little thought or control.  Most mornings there is still that experience of morning wood where it’s so intense it wakes you from your sleep.  Luckily I still have those times when even a strong gust of wind can bring the mast back to the ship.

Kim: Can you pee with a boner?

When in the full erect fashion the tubes are switched so it’s either set to pee or to cum.  There is that time when the penis may look erect but the switch is still on pee mode.  Most the time if having a boner the only liquid will be cum.

Kim:  How do they go away? What can a guy do to make it go away?

At times it’s just a matter of time.  Letting the blood flow away from the penis.  That is the clinical answer.  You would think ejaculating would do it but it at time just reinforces it. Thought control is a great way and many try to think of a negative thought.  If that erection is meant to be it is tough to control it once it’s set on it’s path but continual thought control will achieve it’s goal.  Bottom line is don’t pay any attention and it’ll let go of all the blood in your system.

As an added note to this question:  To maybe prevent a boner during a time where you may think one will appear and you are wanting it to be avoided I have used the technique of let’s say “wearing it out” prior to the needed time when an erection is needing to be avoided.

Kim:  Can you really get blue balls from getting a boner?

Physically the balls do not get blue.  When a penis does not ejaculate during a full boner the cum does go back inside.  When at full erection the liquid is being slowly pumped to the tip and when at that right moment it will come out.  If an erection is lost for any reasons during that process the tip will still be moist as the shrinkage does not allow some to reenter the body.  For some it may look like pre cum.

Kim: What does it mean emotionally to get a boner?

For some as I‘ve said is an embarrassment due to their background and possible early shaming or complexes of one thing or another.  For others it is a proud moment to see their little boy rise to the occasion.  At times the erection means it is a moment before a sexual activity so the rush of excitement is there.  I would like to state while in this question a main reason for this blog is to show that being erect is not always a display of wanting to have sexual experiences.  As for me personally, If I become erect it just may be because I’m relaxed, enjoying the moment or aroused at the moment.  I enjoy the feeling whether it be emotionally , psychologically or physically.  The ultimate payoff may be the orgasm resulting from the erection but for me, the intense erection is the pay off of having this item attached to me.

Kim:  Does a boner mean a physical attraction? Just because a female is physically attractive does that mean you will get a boner?

No is the short answer.  A guy can get a boner from just walking around the house or watering his sunflowers.  What are they attracted to at that moment?  The microwave or the pollen in the air?  I’ve been naked around extremely hot naked females and have been soft.  Much of it is due to being so used to seeing nude females.  Much of it is in the mind.  A boner still at times has to be caused by direct contact.  If when nude and seeing a person nude or clothed hot female the mind has to be with it as well. 

Kim:  How old are males when they get their first boner? Does anyone explain it to them?

I believe I may have been around 12 or 13.  If there is nothing to cause the experience then it has to come naturally and without direct contact.  It may be that hot tv show that caused a young male to experience it for the first time.  For most males there is no explination and therefore the first discussion may be embarrassment or shaming by parents or my school or by religion.  In addition, since it is all new to the male they may not want to discuss or reveal this issue to friends or family thus causing repression.  Only later in life and through porn or self discovery the male may stumble with experimentation to find out how the erection functions and why.  The males first exposure may cause a long lasting imprint of the males overall thought and usage of an erection.  I could go on for days on this one. 

For me, no one explained it.  I just kind of went with it and figured it out in showers and “playing doctor” with the neighbor girl.  Religion and God was a major repressor in that an erection if not used under a bible’s guide meant hell is waiting for ya.



Kim:  Do you have to have a boner to have sex?

Ultimately you need some sort of erection to have sex.  It’s not that easy to insert a penis without having some rigidity.  Once inside you do not have to have a full on intense erection to continue through the act.  If you do “lose it” the ability to thrust is now gone.  Cock rings are good for allowing the penis to stay erect for quite some time due to maintain the blood level in the penis.

Kim: Does the size of the vagina matter to keep a penis erect?

Not always and I mean that it’s not always the tightness of a vagina that causes pleasure for a man and his erection.  It is also a combination of the warmth and moisture.

Kim:  What kind of sensation does the boner have right before ejaculation?

There is an outward display of fullness in the head caused by the extreme build up of pressure.  The pressure is so intense that it begins to electrify the skin all over the body that make cause spasms.  Once in the spasm moment causes an involuntary release.

Kim: Can you get boners repeatedly? How long do they last?

It is all caused by the blood movement so if there is blood and stimulation then there are boners.  I personally can reach orgasm and then continue with the erection.  Once again, it’s very much a mind game.  I also stated earlier that before some events where I don’t want a boner I may “wear it out”.  If I empty out what is causing the boner the less the chances of being erect again.  If unable to void any cum then a boner can come and go all day until relieved. It can be an annoyance if continually being reacted to by any slight thought or movement  throughout the day.



Kim:
Since I know you are a nudist does it hurt to have a boner in pants or underwear? Does having a boner feel better when nude? Do you feel you have more boners because you are nude so much more?

It doesn’t hurt to have a boner when dressed but it just holds it back from its full potential.  Of course it feels better when nude because it has more chances to reach its full potential and for me it has more excitement of the skin.  It’s extremely electrifying to be nude and feel the breeze across an erection.  Oh Lord I almost went into my erotica voice and wrote a chapter lol. Finally, yes I have more when nude because  it is able to relax and be free however if nude at an event then the activity dictates the want to have an erection as if on stage or doing improv comedy.

Kim:  Does having a boner mean you want to have sex?

I am so glad you asked that question.  For many who fear the boner or think of it as nasty or an embarrassment  do not truly understand the erection.  A boner is mostly in the mind and/or a natural reaction to blood flow caused by some sort of stimuli.  Wanting to have sex is not caused by a boner.  I’ll use the thoughts of gun control and shootings.  Guns don’t kill people; people kill people.  Boners/erections  don’t fuck people; people fuck people.  Just because a guy may be erect does not mean they are coming to throw you down and have it you.  That male should be judged by his actions not his physical reactions.
If Scout Willis wants to walk around without a shirt on then she should be able to.  If a person shows disgust at that sight then it is the hang ups of that individual.  If a guy gets erect then that guy with have goose bumps or a cough or a sneeze.  That guy is just having a natural body reaction.  There are many things that go into having a boner and many aspects of it.  I hope I have answered the questions posed to the best of my ability.  I know there is much more to say about them.  I personally enjoy every second of mine.  I tried to maintain one throughout this blog but I’ll say again over the course of time they too do not last. 


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